Who takes care of you?
Begging to go to the bathroom at work was always a chore back in 2007. No one wanted to relieve the executive assistant that ran the front desk of the company. I began having pains in my side but ignored it because there was no time to take care of me. Then one day, I couldn’t take it no more and left the front desk to go to the bathroom! Only to pass out in the hallway 2 minutes later on my way to the bathroom. I woke up in the hospital. The doctors asked why I haven’t been to the doctor sooner because my kidneys were severely infected. I said I am always taking care of everyone and I find there is literally no time to take care of me. One of the doctors told me “Well who will, if you don’t?”
My job entailed me taking care of executives by paying their bills, managing their staff and scheduling their meetings and other personal activities. My home life was my second job that involved dropping off/picking up, cooking, checking homework, bathing, combing hair, paying bills and visits to the ER or doctor’s office. So totally neglecting myself was normal to me. My mom visited me in the hospital and told me if I don’t make sure I am at my best I can be then there will be no one to take care of my family. Taking care of my health physically, emotionally and spiritually was as important as taking care of everyone else’s needs. Being a good mother does not mean forsaking self for all others. It, however, means mothers have to realize we are the most important part of our family unit.
Taking care of myself requires planning too:
· Take care of your health- schedule my 6 month checkup ahead of time/eat right
· Take a break daily no matter how long–enjoy something alone
· Acknowledge you cannot accomplish it all alone–Delegate tasks to others when possible/ask for help
· Journal to God – express gratitude
· Pray or meditate daily– clear your mind
· Encourage yourself, love yourself, be proud of yourself
· Go have a massage – once or twice a month
· Keep positive people around you
· Once or twice a month take a day to hang with friends—spend time with other grownups
If I am not the best self then I cannot properly raise them. I cannot run myself into the ground because they need me. Kids don’t often understand that mommy needs a break but in time they will. I have to love me enough not to forget that I am important too! I have to make my sanity and health a priority too. I have to be the best form of support for my SCW and my other children who are just as important. And at the end of the day, if you don’t take care of yourself, who will?